In the course of the last 3 years, I have been working as a professional seamstress and stylist at FabricChild, with some wonderful women. It was during that season, that my desire for an authentic personal style and growth become very strong, and with it, surfaced the deep seated belief of not being worth of the effort, elegance and beauty.
Naturally there was the question why? Why was it that we would go above and beyond to make other people feel beautiful, look their best, and even celebrate the wins all around, but when it come to us, the best we could do is shun the very thought of being worthy?
Every time I had an idea of making myself a beautiful garment, I would immediately shut that thought down. All I could think of was "that's too much! Its not worth the effort! Your body isn't cut out for elegance. that's reserved for a specific body type and your hips are a bit much."
But WHOSE ORIGINAL THOUGHTS WERE THOSE? Because our creator says we are fearfully and wonderfully made. In proverbs 31, that woman was well dress and if I'm to put in my two cents, I would say from the descriptions of her outfits and fabrics, she was quite elegant, kind, wise.
The good thing about questions entering our subconscious minds is that one way or the other, something has to give, and if we pay close attention, we find the answers or roots of the idea.
HERE IS HOW I CHALLENGED MY LIMITING BELIEFS.
Start by Seeing yourself worthy of beauty. Because God Says So! He says you are fearfully and wonderfully made, in His image and likeness.
*Write down the description of your best version in a journal. The beautiful human that is in the back of your head before any negative thought .
**Write a description of the outfits that bring out confidence and calm in you. If you can think of any, google vintage patterns and study the colors and style inspo. take screenshots of the ones that make you smile. ( I prefer vintage patterns to people because by so doing, we do not end up wanting to become someone's entire personal lifestyle.
***Get dressed everyday even if you are not leaving the house. This is such an amazing and instant confidence boost.
**** Get rid of the pieces that no longer fit you or are completely worn out. By so doing, you will be aware of the pieces you need to invest in. Buying beautiful outfits does not have to be out of budget. Do not buy because of trend but rather focus on functionality.
*****Take and know your body measurements. This will ensure that you do not rely on the clothing label because different brands use different scales. You will fall in love with your body when you understand its proportions, curves and strengths
When you see yourself worthy..👇you will be in a position to take your rightful place in the conscious creation of that dream version .
Before you buy someone's "personal style course," do your inner work until you see yourself worthy of the dream person you want to be. When you find yourself, you'll find your authentically aligned style. Most of the time, inner work is worth more than you can imagine .
With love, Lukela 🖤.
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Before you buy someone's "personal style course," do your inner work until you see yourself worthy of the dream person you want to be. When you find yourself, you'll find your authentically aligned style. Most of the time, inner work is worth more than you can imagine .
With love, Lukela 🖤.
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Today is a good day to be a beginner,A good day to try again,
A good day to start, to pivot, to write it down and implement.
A fantastic day to take the conscious permission to be great. Whatever that is to you.
Have a fantastic day, darling.
With love, Lukela 🖤.